A famous story about the Cuban Missile Crisis is that at the height of the crisis the Kennedy Administration received two messages from the Kremlin. The first message suggested an interest in resolving the crisis peacefully, but the second message was strictly belligerent. The Kennedy people deliberately chose to ignore the second message and instead reply to the first. This tactic produced a peaceful resolution of the crisis.
In general, when X and Y are in conflict, if each side believes that the other is not interested in a fair resolution, the conflict can only escalate. A necessary condition for the conflict to be resolved is that X must believe that Y is interested in resolution, and conversely. It is each side’s beliefs about the other side’s strategy that matters. If X thinks that Y’s strategy is to prolong or escalate the conflict, then X will tend to adopt a stance that appears intransigent to Y.
A challenge is to send clear signals that you are interested in resolving the conflict. When you send mixed signals, the other side can easily focus on the negative signals and take the view that you are not interested in peaceful resolution.
For example, an often-suggested formula for resolving the conflict between Israel and the Palestinians is “land for peace.” The problem is that many Israelis are convinced that the Palestinians do not really want peace, and many Palestinians believe that the Israelis do not really want to give up land.
Each side sends mixed signals to each other. For example, Israeli leaders might talk about a two-state solution but at the same time expand Israeli settlements. Palestinian leaders might talk about peace but at the same time try to de-legitimize Israel internationally. In this context, each side tends to dismiss any positive signals from the other side. Believing that the other side does not want a settlement reduces your incentive to send only positive signals. So the process of sending negative signals becomes self-reinforcing.
Now, apply this to the left and to Donald Trump. A reasonable “settlement” would be for the Left to stop fighting the election results and for Mr. Trump not to infringe on the rights of gays, Muslims, and other minorities. Right now, I don’t think that either side is concentrating on sending positive signals.
Many of my friends on the left insist that we cannot wait until something bad happens–we have to denounce Mr. Trump and Mr. Bannon right now. The alternative that I have suggested is that people on the left (and others) should send a positive message of support and solidarity with Muslims and gays anxious to preserve their legal rights. This message would not include any denunciation of the Trump Administration.
Such a message would send a signal that we will not sit idly by while rights are infringed. It would implicitly offer a reasonable settlement of the conflict, and put the onus on Mr. Trump for refusing to settle.
The more aggressive and pre-emptive confrontational approach that many are taking gives Mr. Trump little or no incentive to change his behavior. In effect, people are saying, “We are going to assume that you have no desire to peacefully resolve our conflict, and you can assume the same thing about us.” If your goal is to try to escalate the conflict, then that is exactly the right approach. But if you have more constructive goals in mind, then I suggest thinking carefully about the signals that you choose to send.